why college degrees don't make boys any smarter

This one is my favorite: “I don’t want a relationship right now…I just want to have fun.” That’s a classic cop-out, especially from college guys. It just makes me wonder: When did relationships get the bad rep of not being fun? The way I see it, a relationship means guaranteed sex, companionship, and conversation requiring little to no effort. And then when does their single “fun” end? Do they think on graduation day they’re just going to move the tassel to the other side and all of sudden turn into a serious, committed, relationship-kinda guy? (For the record, this is not the case. I graduated 8 months ago along with plenty of 22 year old males and as far as I’m concerned, their degree hasn’t changed their dating behavior at all.)

I knew this was an issue I had to try to see from a male’s point of view, so I asked my friend, Nick. He more or less confirmed everything I had already thought. However, he proceeded to describe how he would know that he met the right person who would make him settle down: “If I’ve been hooking up with a girl for a while and I still go to bars and look at other girls and feel myself wanting to hook up with other girls, then I know I shouldn’t get serious with anyone. But when those feelings go away and you find yourself not thinking about anyone else and not checking out other girls at the bars, not thinking about what they look like naked…that’s when you know.” How romantic.

The best part is, the guy who says this is always the one you end up running into at the gym three months later coming out of “couples yoga” with his new girlfriend. Part of you wants to run, but you know better. So you walk right up to him, shockingly act like you’re so excited to have run into him and say, “Oh I didn’t realize you were dating these days! Why didn’t you call me??” (Okay, so I’ve never done that…but I don’t think it’s something I need to experience first-hand to know that it’s not recommended.)

By now I have obviously realized that these guys are generally full of shit. Whether you want a relationship or not, if someone comes along that you truly want to be with you will find yourself hard-pressed not doing so. I’ve come to terms with the fact that it wasn’t the relationship they were denying – it was me. Sounds terrible when you say it outloud, huh? So what do you do? You hold your head high and patiently wait your turn.